Thanksgiving: Meeting the Family

‘I can’t imagine myself without you. I need a whole lot of help without you. Me and my granny both agreed, damn you’re such a G I’ll hold you down forever.’

– Big Sean feat. Miguel (Ashley)

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It’s Thanksgiving and you’re meeting the family for the first time. This is definitely a big deal because Thanksgiving is basically the part 2 of having a family reunion. Your partner isn’t just going to bring anyone home for the holidays. This is a big step in the relationship.

Bustle says that the holidays are a time for us to celebrate family, friends, and love, and by including  you in their celebration, your partner is embracing you and all that you are.

There immediate family are coming along with the Aunts, Uncles, and cousins from out of town. You have to make a good impression on them especially your future in laws, so what do you do?

Rule #1

Respectful and Polite: Show them that you have manners because how you present yourself speaks on how you were raised. First impressions are everything! Make sure you SPEAK to Grandma and Mom especially! You can’t just be walking into other people’s homes without speaking. Also, don’t try too hard just be yourself.

Rule #2

Compose yourself. You know that they’re going to interrogate you because they want to know who their son or daughter is bringing home. Be calm and breathe! Answer their questions honestly but carefully and be thoughtful in your answers.

Rule #3

Help out in anyway possible. Ladies, if Mom needs help setting up the table, do that. If Auntie needs help getting ingredients for desserts or even needs help making desserts, do that. If Grandma needs your help to make the baked macaroni and cheese, do that. Fellas, if Dad is watching the game and invites you to politic with him and Unk, do that. Take the initiative and get involved in the family activities that they’re doing.

Rule #4

Feel out your partner’s family. Notice how they interact with each other and even how they interact with your partner. This will tell you a lot about his/her background and what kind of family they come from. Try to make a connection with someone there.

Beforehand talk to your partner about how you can have each other’s backs. It’s intimidating to come into a new environment when you don’t know anyone and some family members can throw shade making you feel uncomfortable.

Make sure that you and your partner talk about how you can look out for each other and do small things like sit next to each other or check in with one another occasionally. Relationship expert, Dr. Stan Tatkin talked to Insider and he says that that’s the idea of being a couple. They protect each other. They have each other’s backs, even with people that are familiar.

Prepare each other for other family dynamics and think extreme such as heated debates about politics, the interrogation process, drunk fights, and family secrets getting exposed. Clarissa Silva, behavioral scientist and founder of C Silva Solutions tells Bustle that it’s important that the couple are on the same page and can help minimize some of the nervousness your partner might feel.

To all my couples, did you meet your partners family over the holidays? If so how was the experience?

P.S. I have to show y’all some of the food my Mom made for Thanksgiving, she went crazy. This isn’t all of it but these are just my favorites.

Collard Greens

The best part of this is the juice especially when it has hot sauce in it.

Cornish Hen Chicken

My mom uses this as a substitute for turkey because turkey is just too dry to even try to eat.

Baked Macaroni & Cheese

This is the best thing ever created in life! I could literally eat this every single day. Not everyone knows how to make baked Mac & Cheese which is surprising because to me it’s easy to make, but just wow! I prefer this instead of the box version.

Dressing

This with cranberry sauce is a instant hit! The flavor is everything

Ham

I had to take a close up picture of the ham. Look at all those juices, the pineapples on the top made it even better.

Reasons To Eat Better

‘Shawty so fine, p**** so fresh… Diced pineapples, damn, my baby tastes the best.’

-Rick Ross feat Wale & Drake (Diced Pineapples)

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Painting by: Kyla the Artist

We’ve all heard the phrase “You are what you eat.” Well people this is very much true! How do you expect your goodies to taste sweet if you’re eating McDonald’s and drinking pop and juice everyday?

Vaginal and penis health are so important! Monthly check-ups and showering/bathing isn’t enough. You need to eat better too. You’re hygiene should be in tip top shape, especially if you’re having sex. All of our bodies have a different scent and smell and can alter due to the material of clothing, intercourse, and our PH levels in general.

Let’s just be honest, we all want to know what we taste like to our partner but if you’re eating habits aren’t that healthy, you may not taste good.

When 13 Men talked to Thought Catalog , they described their girlfriends as tasting like “the beach”, “s***”, “garbage” and even weird things like “puppy breath. 13 Women also talked to Thought Catalog, and the described their boyfriends as tasting like “old pennies, salty mushrooms, salty seawater, and “creamy chlorine cleanser.”

WOW! This shows how careless we can be by eating food that tastes good to us but aren’t being good to us internally. Fruits and vegetables are not only good for reducing chronic diseases but they’re giving our fluids a better flavor as well as the energy we need to have a healthier lifestyle.

Sodium Breakup says that if you eat too much sodium you could experience high blood pressure. When high blood pressure causes blood vessel damage, it can reduce blood flow throughout your body, including your pelvic area. Your sex life can be affected by lower blood flow to the pelvis.

A female’s arousal before and during intercourse can be affected to the vaginal area. Studies has also shown that high blood pressure has been linked to vaginal dryness and less frequent orgasm. Males who have high blood pressure may encounter erectile dysfunction. An erection happens through blood flow to the penis, which can be a big challenge with someone with lower blood flow.

Good thing that it isn’t too late to change our eating habits. Here’s a list of food that are good for you and the goodies, as well as your overall health.

The Good

  • Cranberry Juice: The acid compounds in the juice helps fight off bad bacteria and can also prevent and relieve uriary tract infections. A natural, no-sugar-added brand would be the best route to go to get the benefits.
  • Pineapples: This fruit as well as oranges, grapefruit, and lemons, all have Vitamin C, it also helps balance your PH levels.
  • Apples: The phytoestrogen found in apples leads to better sexual function in women such as the ability to get aroused, your ability to orgasm and sexual satisfaction.
  • Celery: High levels of water and Vitamin C, the high chlorophyll contained in this helps sweeten the taste of semen
  • Yogurt: Helps add probiotic to the body and adds good bacteria. Organic yogurt, not the branded kind.
  • Grapes: Helps hydrate the body, rich in antioxidants and minerals like potassium, calcium, iron, magnesium, selenium, and phosphorus.
  • Watermelon: Lightens the taste of vagina fluid and semen and high in Vitamin C & A.
  • Strawberries: Makes your immune system high and fights infections.
  • Spinach: Decreases inflammation and increases blood flow.
  • Coconut Oil: Anti-fungal and anti-bacterial which means no yeast infections and also great for  lubrication.
  • Sweet Potatoes: The vitamin A in sweet potatoes contributes to healthy vaginal and uterine walls. It helps us produce the hormones we need to stay vibrant and energized.
  • Kiwi: Helps with stamina and keeps your sex drive going by removing the free radicals that disrupt normal sexual health.

The one that tops this list is WATER!

According to H.H. Mitchell, Journal of Biological Chemistry 158, the brain and heart are composed of 73% water, and the lungs are about 83% water. The skin contains 64% water, muscles and kidneys are 79%, and even the bones are watery: 31%. Water is the key to our survival as human beings, our bodies depend on it. We have to say hydrated! For a happy and naturally lubricated vagina water is the best source. Drinking water daily thins your discharge and fleshes out any toxins, making any odor you had disperse.

The Bad

  • Beer, & Alcohol: Contributes to vaginal dryness and can cause odor if you’re drinking too much of it. It also can delay or prevent an orgasm.
  • Coffee: Not only can this change your vaginal odor, but it can also increase your risk of getting a yeast infection.
  • Onions & Asparagus: Foods that make you sweat more causing a foul oder will most likely do the same for your private area
  • Red Meat: Can create a sharp, salty taste.
  • Fish: The obvious.. it’ll make you taste or smell fishy.
  • Dairy: Not all dairy but some dairy such as cheese can disrupt vaginal bacteria. Has high bacterial putrefaction levels and can create a salty or bitter flavor.

Dr. Barbara Bartlik, Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and sex therapist with the Human Sexuality Program at Weill Cornell Medical Center told Forbes magazine that Omega-3 food makes your nervous system function better. “Sex is really about circuitry.” Multivitamins and minerals will help, too. Both improve neurological function, which contributes to good circulation.

Let’s make this clear, eat better for YOU! Your vagina or penis doesn’t depend on the approval of your partner especially when it’s a natural part of your being. Just slow down on the alcohol, cigarettes, pop, and fast food. Remember, for anything to work you must be consistent because good things take time, it doesn’t just happen overnight. Be good to yourself.