Sex and Fitness

‘Is it worth it? Let me work it. I put my thing down, flip it and reverse it.. If you got a big, let me search ya and find out how hard I gotta work ya’

Missy Elliot (Work It)

Image from Bobby Gouse IG

Bobby Gouse, an instructor at Studio Three Chicago and AIR-Ariel Fitness has been teaching fitness for over 6 years. Originally from New York City, he began as an actor than switched to coaching children for Broadway shows. Then he started dancing for a dance cardio company called 305 Fitness. Soon after, he became interested in becoming a personal trainer and began taking classes to get certified. Gouse then came to Chicago to pursue his dreams in fitness. When I interviewed Gouse, he gave insight on how sex and fitness work hand in hand.

1. How do you think fitness benefits people’s sex life overall?

It’s huge, it’s not just ‘I want to have a eight pack or big boobs or butt’, it’s not just about looking good. You looking good for your partner and also looking good for yourself is important. Once you better yourself and look in the mirror saying ‘I’m really comfortable with how I look’, its really going to pay off in the bedroom and most of all mentally. Eating healthy, working out, and portion control. Once you feel super secure about yourself and you bring that into a bedroom it’s fireworks!

2. Do you recommend that people have a workout routine not only for their physical health, but also for them to not get tired quickly in the bedroom? Why or why not?

Definitely, because then you can lift your guy or girl. Also with Yoga you can become more flexible to get into different positions. Doing barre classes or an air class that has a lot of upper body strength and with those things you can totally bring that into the bedroom. A lot of core work also because core is your main thing that’s holding you up along with squats.

3. Do you think that exercise increases your sex drive and why?

Yes!, absolutely it’s scientifically proven.

4. Which part of the body does cycle help improve and how would that affect a persons sex life?

Cycling helps your legs, core, and butt. You’re mainly working your core, a lot of people think it’s all legs and it’s really not. Once you keep your hips still and you engage your core and sit that butt back, your whole body is engaged and it’s working everything. A lot of people are shocked with how many muscles you’re actually working when you cycle especially when you’re on the saddle. Those tap backs you can totally bring them into the bedroom and if you come to my class, I do plenty of tap backs and a lot of choreography that you can bring into the bedroom that make you feel sexy.

5. What other exercise besides kegel exercises would you recommend?

I would say doing squats with weights, yoga (yoga is super important) , planks, runner lunges — One leg in front, the other is back. Anything that you work your butt, legs, and inner thighs is huge and beneficial.

Health says that in men, regular exercise appears to be a natural Viagra. It’s associated with a lower risk of erectile problems. Research in women has found that those who are physically active report greater sexual desire, arousal, and satisfaction than women who are sedentary.  In an experiment was conducted with young women that required them to do intense cycling for 20 minutes prior to watching X-rated films. The exercise increases vaginal blood volume responses to the film and exercise.

That alone proves that a physically fit person is more likely to enjoy sex more than a non-for person. They have ten times the energy and are less likely to get worn out quickly.

HowStuffWorks says that the improved muscle tone can increase sexual gratification since orgasms depend on multiple muscle activity.

Yes ladies we’re aiming for orgasms not just to cum, there’s definitely a difference between the two.

Other benefits of working out is that it raises your heart rate, helps you find your balance, strengthens your pelvic floor muscles and connects you with your body.

Don’t just workout to have a better sex life, but workout to have a better health life in general. Remember to treat yourself well and eat right. Your body, mind, and soul depend on you to exercise so you’ll feel even younger in your older years to come.

I’m going to be honest, it’s way better to workout with friends so schedule a day when you and the girls or guys are just chilling with nothing to do and get a membership at your local gym. Get all the benefits of a better sex life, a healthier heart, and a in depth connection with your inner self.

Reasons To Eat Better

‘Shawty so fine, p**** so fresh… Diced pineapples, damn, my baby tastes the best.’

-Rick Ross feat Wale & Drake (Diced Pineapples)


Painting by: Kyla the Artist

We’ve all heard the phrase “You are what you eat.” Well people this is very much true! How do you expect your goodies to taste sweet if you’re eating McDonald’s and drinking pop and juice everyday?

Vaginal and penis health are so important! Monthly check-ups and showering/bathing isn’t enough. You need to eat better too. You’re hygiene should be in tip top shape, especially if you’re having sex. All of our bodies have a different scent and smell and can alter due to the material of clothing, intercourse, and our PH levels in general.

Let’s just be honest, we all want to know what we taste like to our partner but if you’re eating habits aren’t that healthy, you may not taste good.

When 13 Men talked to Thought Catalog , they described their girlfriends as tasting like “the beach”, “s***”, “garbage” and even weird things like “puppy breath. 13 Women also talked to Thought Catalog, and the described their boyfriends as tasting like “old pennies, salty mushrooms, salty seawater, and “creamy chlorine cleanser.”

WOW! This shows how careless we can be by eating food that tastes good to us but aren’t being good to us internally. Fruits and vegetables are not only good for reducing chronic diseases but they’re giving our fluids a better flavor as well as the energy we need to have a healthier lifestyle.

Sodium Breakup says that if you eat too much sodium you could experience high blood pressure. When high blood pressure causes blood vessel damage, it can reduce blood flow throughout your body, including your pelvic area. Your sex life can be affected by lower blood flow to the pelvis.

A female’s arousal before and during intercourse can be affected to the vaginal area. Studies has also shown that high blood pressure has been linked to vaginal dryness and less frequent orgasm. Males who have high blood pressure may encounter erectile dysfunction. An erection happens through blood flow to the penis, which can be a big challenge with someone with lower blood flow.

Good thing that it isn’t too late to change our eating habits. Here’s a list of food that are good for you and the goodies, as well as your overall health.

The Good

  • Cranberry Juice: The acid compounds in the juice helps fight off bad bacteria and can also prevent and relieve uriary tract infections. A natural, no-sugar-added brand would be the best route to go to get the benefits.
  • Pineapples: This fruit as well as oranges, grapefruit, and lemons, all have Vitamin C, it also helps balance your PH levels.
  • Apples: The phytoestrogen found in apples leads to better sexual function in women such as the ability to get aroused, your ability to orgasm and sexual satisfaction.
  • Celery: High levels of water and Vitamin C, the high chlorophyll contained in this helps sweeten the taste of semen
  • Yogurt: Helps add probiotic to the body and adds good bacteria. Organic yogurt, not the branded kind.
  • Grapes: Helps hydrate the body, rich in antioxidants and minerals like potassium, calcium, iron, magnesium, selenium, and phosphorus.
  • Watermelon: Lightens the taste of vagina fluid and semen and high in Vitamin C & A.
  • Strawberries: Makes your immune system high and fights infections.
  • Spinach: Decreases inflammation and increases blood flow.
  • Coconut Oil: Anti-fungal and anti-bacterial which means no yeast infections and also great for  lubrication.
  • Sweet Potatoes: The vitamin A in sweet potatoes contributes to healthy vaginal and uterine walls. It helps us produce the hormones we need to stay vibrant and energized.
  • Kiwi: Helps with stamina and keeps your sex drive going by removing the free radicals that disrupt normal sexual health.

The one that tops this list is WATER!

According to H.H. Mitchell, Journal of Biological Chemistry 158, the brain and heart are composed of 73% water, and the lungs are about 83% water. The skin contains 64% water, muscles and kidneys are 79%, and even the bones are watery: 31%. Water is the key to our survival as human beings, our bodies depend on it. We have to say hydrated! For a happy and naturally lubricated vagina water is the best source. Drinking water daily thins your discharge and fleshes out any toxins, making any odor you had disperse.

The Bad

  • Beer, & Alcohol: Contributes to vaginal dryness and can cause odor if you’re drinking too much of it. It also can delay or prevent an orgasm.
  • Coffee: Not only can this change your vaginal odor, but it can also increase your risk of getting a yeast infection.
  • Onions & Asparagus: Foods that make you sweat more causing a foul oder will most likely do the same for your private area
  • Red Meat: Can create a sharp, salty taste.
  • Fish: The obvious.. it’ll make you taste or smell fishy.
  • Dairy: Not all dairy but some dairy such as cheese can disrupt vaginal bacteria. Has high bacterial putrefaction levels and can create a salty or bitter flavor.

Dr. Barbara Bartlik, Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and sex therapist with the Human Sexuality Program at Weill Cornell Medical Center told Forbes magazine that Omega-3 food makes your nervous system function better. “Sex is really about circuitry.” Multivitamins and minerals will help, too. Both improve neurological function, which contributes to good circulation.

Let’s make this clear, eat better for YOU! Your vagina or penis doesn’t depend on the approval of your partner especially when it’s a natural part of your being. Just slow down on the alcohol, cigarettes, pop, and fast food. Remember, for anything to work you must be consistent because good things take time, it doesn’t just happen overnight. Be good to yourself.