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Who Really Won?

On By Ashley RedIn hiphop, men, music1 Comment

“Rest in peace to Pookie Loc blame it on me, never snitching. Lord knows I ain’t send the homie on no dummy mission.”

Jeezy (Forgive Me)

Image from Gucci Mane

15 years damn…

I must admit I never thought I would ever see these two in the same room together like EVER without more blood being shed.

GQ says that the beef initially started in 2004. The two collaborated on two tracks, “Black Tees” and “So Icy”, but the song “So Icy” got the most attention. Both were trying to push the songs as their own.

Gucci Mane used it as his lead single for his album Traphouse and Jeezy was trying to put it on his album as well. However the inquiry was not approved. Gucci Mane became irritated with the absence of Jeezy when it came to performing the song live and things just went downhill from there.

Diss songs were being made back & fourth. It even escalated to one of Jeezy’s associates, Henry Lee Clark III aka Pookie Loc getting killed in a robbery gone wrong.

Gucci Mane pleaded self defense and charges were dropped against him in 2006.

On Thursday (Nov 19.) the impossible happened. Gucci Mane and Jeezy battled against each other on an IG Live series called “Verzuz”.

Gucci Mane came out on straight bulls*** with his slick remarks and immediate songs dissing Jeezy. His disrespect was very much present and direct.

Jeezy remained cool, calm, and collected with his song catalog and behavior.

The battle quickly got heated when Gucci Mane performed “The Truth” and dissed Jeezy’s deceased associate. Jeezy addressed the situation and still kept his composure.

“When I said I wanted to do this s*** for the culture, that’s what I wanted to do n****. I brought you here to show you that the world care about what we got going on because WE ARE THE CULTURE. Me and you, US. All these kids out here doing what the f*** they do cause they saw what went on with us. This s*** ain’t about you, this s*** ain’t about me. This about King Von, this s*** about Doe B, this s*** about Nipsey Hussle, Mo3.”

Jeezy won the Verzuz battle, but Gucci won the disrespect forsure! Gucci Mane has the right to feel how he feels about the situation and to perform the song because, his life was the one that was in danger. As an Aquarius, I definitely understand why Gucci was so disrespectful and had no remorse. Once it’s up there, ITS UP!

However, Jeezy has already did what other people don’t know & never will do. He took ACCOUNTABILITY. No one knows how close Pookie Loc and Jeezy were, whether if they were close friends or just associates. Regardless, Jeezy still knows he was in the wrong and expressed that. The song “Forgive Me” speaks for itself.

Jeezy extended the olive branch to Gucci Mane to show the world that the impossible can happen. They’re both in their 40s’. Who wants to keep beefing and having animosity? The situation was small but turned big, like most situations do. This was a chance to stop the cycle because over the years, rap s*** turns into street s*** and that’s not how things are supposed to be at all.

Gucci Mane accepted the challenge to be disrespectful yes but deep down he feels the same.

In a way, Gucci is getting wrapped up in his old ways because of the company he’s keeping. The young dudes he be around are always on GO and they aren’t looking at the impact of things.

Honestly, think about it. When Gucci got out of prison and changed his life, people were saying that he was a clone. He’s a clone because he’s trying to better himself? He’s a clone because he’s not into the same things that he was into when he was in his 20s’? Being “savage” don’t last and it don’t get you anywhere. People challenged his reputation and questioned him. Its like he’s fighting with his past image vs. doing what’s better fit for him.

The people need to understand that, THESE ARE NOT THE SAME MEN FROM ‘05. Mindsets change, character evolves. The goal is to grow & prosper from your past.

People are calling Jeezy a p**** for not responding in a “gangsta” way but where would that get them? That would be a waste of our time because it would end in gun fire. Something that we’re used to seeing. Let’s be real, ain’t nobody fighting no more. That would defeat the original reason why they came together in the first place.

You can’t be biased and call Jeezy a p**** and not say the same thing about Gucci. He’s still in a room with a man who allegedly put a hit out on him and Jeezy is still alive. So who’s really the p****? NOBODY.

All this s*** was bigger than the music.

I think the big picture of it all was to shed light on how beefing with someone gets old… how many people are you willing to lose? Think about who you’re hurting if something were to happen to you. Think about who you’re leaving behind.

That’s why they both referenced King Von because like other rappers King Von was at the peak of his career & now he’s gone. We’ve had a few rappers who were at their peak but the streets got in the way. It’s crazy how small things can turn big & spiral out of control…

These two will most likely never be friends or even trust each other which is completely understandable, but a common ground was made. Especially when both performed “So Icy” in the ending and Gucci Mane made his statement.

“Aye man listen all respect. I appreciate you for throwing out the olive branch, I accept that. No disrespect it’s all love.”

Street s*** usually ends with somebody being in prison or somebody being dead. Jeezy & Gucci Mane are both alive and successful. In the end, nobody lost, it was even.

Forgiveness don’t make you weak. Grace don’t make you soft. An apology don’t make you a hypocrite. Being a gangsta is letting s*** slide because you have a family and priorities to take care of. Having integrity is admitting your mistakes and letting your people know y’all have came too far to let anything set you back. Being real is giving credit when its due.

Its chess not checkers.

Street Love: Meet U In Another Lifetime

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Took you from the hood & I could never give you back, I just wanna let you know that someone love you back

Drake (Child’s Play)

Image from Asian Doll

When dealing with a man from the streets you gotta understand this ain’t no fairytale, this real life. If you have some type of hood n**** fetish thinking you’re going to get what they portray on T.V. or social media, you just need to walk away because you’re playing a dangerous game. That’s one thing they don ‘t do is play games, go ahead and make that exit for me sis.

Every man has been through trial and trauma, but this ain’t just a regular dude.

You have to be mentally and emotionally strong for this type of man cause you gon’ go through some s***. Your level of understanding and patience has to be at an all time high. He’s gonna let you know through the door what he comes with, how he likes things to be done, his triggers, what he’s trying to work on and how he wants/needs you to move.

He’s going to tell you all those things and give you the option of staying or leaving because he doesn’t need to second guess anything. He’s going to test you to see how you handle situations, how you think, but most of all to see if he can really trust you because he trusts no one.

Is you with me or what…

His charm, approach and personality is what’s going to get you first. They’re going to woo you in a different type of way because they pay attention.

When you think they’re not listening, they hear you… when you think they don’t notice when you’re having a bad day, they already thinking of ways to resolve the problem.

When you looking good, they wanna show you off but at the same time keep you to themselves; you’re their jewel. Beyond getting gifts and getting wined and dined they’re going to make sure you’re respected and well protected.

They move fast when they really like you.

I Love Hood N****s says when you with a hood boy, you never have to wonder how they feel about you. It’s my belief that hugging the block makes you appreciate time, therefore they don’t waste it being “just friends”.

In most cases, that is very true. Once you’ve shown them that you’re a good, loyal woman they start to open up more. Bringing you around family and friends instantly, being openly affectionate, more open-minded to the things you want to do and giving you their support 100%.

He actually has a heart, it just doesn’t beat for everybody.

The more time that’s spent you start to realize that he’s not who everyone demonizes him to be. He’s not just a man who totes guns and drugs. This is a man who has taken countless losses. His nights are sleepless and his brain never stops, he’s always on GO. He’s damaged from deaths, shootouts, scrambling for money, having no food at times and knowing that he still has to hold it together. Nothing excites him because he’s paranoid of being too excited and something going wrong, so he’s laidback.

He doesn’t want to put his trauma on you so at times he’s quiet and doesn’t want to talk. A lot of things you shouldn’t take personal. He just wants you to be his peace since the world has been so chaotic and he’ll be the same for you.

The relationship will be far from perfect. You gonna have them days where y’all arguing about other women/other men, jealousy, trust issues, miscommunication and misunderstandings, controlling and possessiveness. It’s even going to be times when y’all not speaking to each other because no one wants to say the wrong thing and y’all just tired of arguing.

Through those times both of you need to really focus on what matters and what doesn’t. Also, there needs to be an understanding so neither one of you drain each other out. If some type of space is needed take it, but don’t take too much of it. It’s what’s needed to clear the smoke, then come back together. That’s how it goes.

As a woman, you are molding him to know that there is more to life than the streets. He’s not looking toward or thinking of the future, he’s just living day by day. He’s molding you as well by teaching you the game rather than running it on you, bringing out more of the woman in you and putting you on point to what you need to know in life.

Every moment, every second he’s molding you, testing you, giving you the balance of soft love and tough love because he knows that one day he’s not going to be around anymore rather its dead or in jail.

Some people do get those chances to where they beat jail, but you can’t beat death cause we all gotta die some day. That’s why he keeps you close and God close. He lives in moments rather than the future because he knows that once he’s gone, you’ll still have those memories and that bond. He wants you to be left strong, prepared and unbreakable. He is you and you are him.

Power In The P

On By Ashley RedIn dating, Love, men, music, penis, sex, vagina, womenLeave a comment

N****s will lose they mind for it. Wine for it, dine for it.
Spend time for it, see no colored line for it.

Sza feat Kendrick Lamar (Doves In the Wind)

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Image from Black Lotus Mother

The power of the vagina is incredible. It’s a self-cleaning machine, it bleeds without injury and gets wet without water. Not to mention that tiny hole that we have is elastic! We push out babies from that tiny hole every day making a new generation.

The things that men will go through to get it is truly mind blowing and if it’s good, the things they’ll tolerate to keep getting it is proof that the vagina is like no other.

Months ago I saw a status made by one of my Facebook friends and it had me wondering “damn is this really true? This can’t be true.”

This is what the post said…

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This is coming from a man so I was intrigued that he made this status. I’m a woman so I have no idea what the inside of another female feels like. Even if this was a joke.. some jokes hold truth. I over analyze everything so of course me being me, I read all 72 comments under this status just to see what other people thought about this.

Afterwards I made a poll about this on my Instagram and had my male followers engage on the topic. Out of seventy-five comments, seventy-three of the comments were men disagreeing with the status.

Khalif, 24, disagreed saying that some women can reach a different level of being turned on sexually.

‘Some females can control muscles better than others and some females just can reach a different level of being turned on which is why they can get wetter and do other things like squirt easier and more frequently.’

Jae, 22, also disagreed with the status. ‘Some women have kids, that’s a different feeling. Some women workout a lot, which helps them strengthen them muscles to rap around your meat, which is a different feeling. Some women are really emotional and get beyond wet when you touch them the right way, and make them feel special. Some women’s hygiene is so good and they drink so much water that their pussy is literally like water, which is a different feeling. The pussy varies by age and experience so no I don’t agree he just ain’t doing it right.’

I’m glad y’all got some sense because I knew I wasn’t tweakin’, I still wanted to get perspective from other males.

Yes, as women we all have the same private parts and holes but they feel different and look different. Some clitiours are bigger or smaller than others, some females get wetter than others depending on how much water they drink or how turned on they are. It’s different things that you have to factor in especially when it comes to the vagina.

Metro says that vaginas may each be different in terms of texture and curves, it’s likely that those differences wouldn’t be picked up by penetration with the penis.

Web MD says that penis sensitivity starts to decline with age, lessening from age 25 and up. One person’s penis may be more sensitive than another man so those men will feel two completely different experiences. Just like some men penis don’t feel the same to women because of shapes and sizes this goes for women’s vagina as well.

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Other things to factor in is if you actual have a connection with that person or not. If you’re having meaningless sex with different women then, of course to you they may all feel the same because you’re not fully engaged with them.

Warmth, lubricate, and grip varies and can change over time. However, think about how sex feels with the woman that you like or love versus sex with someone that you barely know.

If all vagina felt the same then why put so much effort to get it?!

MY POINT EXACTLY

In this video where ASAP Rocky talks about double standards concerning men and women, he says “it’s a man’s world but pussy makes the world go ’round.”

Men smell good for women. Men get nice things for themselves but they get those things to be noticed by a woman. A man may take you out because he like’s you but he wants the prize between your legs too. He may pay your bills to take care of you and because he loves you but baby he wants to keep getting that thang too! That’s just how it goes.

Tupac said it the best…

“Revenge is like the sweetest joy next to getting pussy.”