Power In The P

N****s will lose they mind for it. Wine for it, dine for it.
Spend time for it, see no colored line for it.

Sza feat Kendrick Lamar (Doves In the Wind)

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Image from Black Lotus Mother

The power of the vagina is incredible. It’s a self-cleaning machine, it bleeds without injury and gets wet without water. Not to mention that tiny hole that we have is elastic! We push out babies from that tiny hole every day making a new generation.

The things that men will go through to get it is truly mind blowing and if it’s good, the things they’ll tolerate to keep getting it is proof that the vagina is like no longer.

Months ago I saw a status made by one of my Facebook friends and it had me wondering “damn is this really true? This can’t be true.”

This is what the post said…

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This is coming from a man so I was intrigued that he made this status. I’m a woman so I have no idea what the inside of another female feels like. Even if this was a joke.. some jokes hold truth. I over analyze everything so of course me being me, I read all 72 comments under this status just to see what other people thought about this.

Afterwards I made a poll about this on my Instagram and had my male followers engage on the topic. Out of seventy-five comments, seventy-three of the comments were men disagreeing with the status.

Khalif, 24, disagreed saying that some women can reach a different level of being turned on sexually.

‘Some females can control muscles better than others and some females just can reach a different level of being turned on which is why they can get wetter and do other things like squirt easier and more frequently.’

Jae, 22, also disagreed with the status. ‘Some women have kids, that’s a different feeling. Some women workout a lot, which helps them strengthen them muscles to rap around your meat, which is a different feeling. Some women are really emotional and get beyond wet when you touch them the right way, and make them feel special. Some women’s hygiene is so good and they drink so much water that their pussy is literally like water, which is a different feeling. The pussy varies by age and experience so no I don’t agree he just ain’t doing it right.’

I’m glad y’all got some sense because I knew I wasn’t tweakin’, I still wanted to get perspective from other males.

Yes, as women we all have the same private parts and holes but they feel different and look different. Some clitiours are bigger or smaller than others, some females get wetter than others depending on how much water they drink or how turned on they are. It’s different things that you have to factor in especially when it comes to the vagina.

Metro says that vaginas may each be different in terms of texture and curves, it’s likely that those differences wouldn’t be picked up by penetration with the penis.

Web MD says that penis sensitivity starts to decline with age, lessening from age 25 and up. One person’s penis may be more sensitive than another man so those men will feel two completely different experiences. Just like some men penis don’t feel the same to women because of shapes and sizes this goes for women’s vagina as well.

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Other things to factor in is if you actual have a connection with that person or not. If you’re having meaningless sex with different women then, of course to you they may all feel the same because you’re not fully engaged with them.

Warmth, lubricate, and grip varies and can change over time. However, think about how sex feels with the woman that you like or love versus sex with someone that you barely know.

If all vagina felt the same then why put so much effort to get it?!

MY POINT EXACTLY

In this video where ASAP Rocky talks about double standards concerning men and women, he says “it’s a man’s world but pussy makes the world go ’round.”

Men smell good for women. Men get nice things for themselves but they get those things to be noticed by a woman. A man may take you out because he like’s you but he wants the prize between your legs too. He may pay your bills to take care of you and because he loves you but baby he wants to keep getting that thang too! That’s just how it goes.

Tupac said it the best…

“Revenge is like the sweetest joy next to getting pussy.”

 

 

Intimacy: Touch Me In Different Ways

‘Lay your head on my pillow, here you can be yourself. No one has to know what you are feeling, no one but me & you’

– Alicia Keys (Diary)Images by meandsomebodyson_ & meandsomebodydaughter

Beyond a relationship, dating, and even the talking stage… Is there a friendship? Is there intimacy?

When we make connections with people especially the ones that we are dating or possibly see a future with, we forget the small things. Those small things consists of friendship, trust, and intimacy.

Intimacy isn’t always about sex. You can touch each other in different ways, not just physical.

Intimacy is a bond you share with another person. Through that bond, you know that person like the back of your hand and things become more secure.

Psych Central says that getting to the core of a relationship requires that both people work through their fear. By visiting and revisiting these areas, intimacy matures and mellows over time.

That’s exactly what holds us back from a lot of things. FEAR.

The fear of being judged because of personality traits that you don’t want the other to see or flaws and insecurities that you may have. That’s understandable because we always want to show up as our highest self, but how do you expect to get to that root of closeness with a person if you haven’t shown them who you really are? Take the mask off.

Our friends that we acquire in our lives have seen the beautiful sides of us and the deep down in the gutter us. Even through all of that they love us anyway. You know why? Because they’re willing to go through the good and bad with us.

That should be applied to your person of interest as well. Having sex is fun but it becomes boring after a while. You have to keep each other interested.

You don’t have to have lame conversations. Lord knows I hate when a person “wyd” me to death. Ask them how there day is going, what their childhood was like, what’s the one thing they want to do before they die, how are they feeling & etc.

I remember a time when this boy stayed the night with me. We were laying in my bed naked but we didn’t have sex… We listened to music and talked all night and honestly, I was happy we didn’t do anything because from there it established that we could actually chill together. I also think that’s one of the reasons why we never fell off. That situation made us like each other more. I told my friends about it and they were just as shocked as me cause things usually don’t happen that way, but I knew it was definitely more there. (Lol I’ll keep y’all updated I’m still seeing how this is going to play out) etc.

In Alicia Keys song ‘Diary‘ she says:

“I won’t tell, your secrets

Your secrets are safe with me

I will keep, your secrets

Just think of me as the pages in your diary.”

That song went number one because that type of closeness and comfortability is something that we all crave. To be able to truly vent to someone and be yourself with them is unmatched.

On top of that, go out and explore together! Take initiative and make plans. Everything doesn’t have to be labeled as a date, you can enjoy each other’s company. If y’all click then the romance is going to be there regardless, you don’t have to be lovey dovey with everything.

Be vulnerable. Be fun. Be silly. Trust each other.

The world has our minds thinking that we have to be so cold-hearted and put up a wall with everyone we come in contact with when that’s not good at all. You don’t have to share everything all at once but you can give bits and pieces of yourself at a time. Rejection happens and it’s awful but you shouldn’t let that stop you from opening up to the next person.

Psych Alive says most of us say that we want to find a loving partner, but many of us have deep-seated fears of intimacy that make it difficult to be in a close relationship. The experience of real love often threatens our self-defenses and raises our anxiety as we become vulnerable and open ourselves up to another person.

Things last more when they aren’t rushed and when there’s a companionship. Remember you’re still getting to know each other, not only know each other LEARN each other.

Marriage  says when you jump into a relationship without being friends first, all types of issues and challenges occur, and you begin to expect more from the person and sometimes set unrealistic expectations.

That’s why some of us don’t know how to be intimate without sex being involved. You skipped over the most important step, but it’s okay. It’s never too late to pick each other’s head. Just relax and let things flourish. Most of all be patient, things will happen in its own time.

Snatching Souls

‘Cause I love it when you’re looking down at me, I’m looking up at you.. And I don’t give a damn shawty, watch me knock your boots off’

– The Weeknd (What You Need)

A blessing and a curse.

The art of soul snatching is real! People often think that it’s just a individual dominating someone else’s body while their in ecstasy but it’s more. Orgasms and climaxes are natural but that does NOT mean you’ve ‘snatched someone’s soul’.

Soul snatching is being able to control your opposition not only physically but with your mind. A soul snatcher will entice your mind , leaving you fully open to experiencing new things outside your comfort zone.

Love Sex And Passion says They’ll please you and control you at the same time.

Not only is soul snatching real but so are soul ties. Each time a man connects with a woman sexually releasing his liquids and energy within her, he leaves a part of his DNA. If she doesn’t clean herself then it remains inside of her, leaving an impression which causes a person to become sexual addicted to that individual.

Sex is more than just a physical act, it’s spiritual as well. The more we are with a person especially in a sexual way, we start to develop their habits without even knowing it.

Jet Magazine says you ultimately become who you exchange with in the physical sense, so be mindful about who you choose.

Even when using a condom, spiritually transmitted demons can interrupt your spirit.

Have you ever noticed that some men and women can’t get over that one particular person that has caused them emotional trauma? No matter if it’s been months or years, the very sound of their name or even seeing their face just fills them up with disgust! It’s because something within them that wasn’t right tormented your inner being. Then eventually the only thing that was holding the relationship or bond together was the sex.

Sometimes that soul tie even causes us to attract that very person that we despise. It could be a different person, yet the same behavior. It all becomes familiar.

Pay attention to the way you are around this person. Are you calm and comfortable or are you sad for no reason or feeling empty?

I was always taught about soul ties and energies as a child but I never understood what it truly meant, especially when it came to sex. It wasn’t until I entered my twenties and had my own experiences is when I found out that it wasn’t a theory.

A couple of years ago, I was bonded to someone that I thought that I could potentially be with but it seemed like we were always clashing. There were times where I knew that the affects he had on me were destructive but I couldn’t shake him. It was a love/hate thing mixed with lust.

The more we linked up it seemed that we would literally exchange feelings. In the beginning I was always the happy one and he was always the sad one that felt like the world was on his shoulders.. then that all shifted into me becoming the depressed one and him becoming the ‘happy for no reason’ partner.

Once I finally came to my senses and ended it, I compared my experience with him to others. All the good and the bad was put into evaluation and I can truly say that we were tied together for all the wrong reasons. Even though I was hurt and didn’t want to believe it, I felt a sense of relief.

Women fall in love based on emotions even when they know the facts. Men fall in love based on facts, even if they have a strong connection or feeling for you they won’t let that overpower their decision on if they see a long term future with you.

MyBlackMatters says that many times we fall in love without realizing what it is we’re falling into. When a woman is led by her emotions this makes it easy for her to be taken advantage of. She may be sexually compatible with a man who has no idea how to care for her heart.

The same thing goes for men. This is why we have to be cautious of who we are exchanging liquids, energy, and spirits with. You don’t know what good or bad affects that person may have on you.

If you’re going to get your ‘soul snatched’ make sure you know who’s doing the snatching, you may be sleeping with the devil and you don’t even know it! Men and women your bodies are temples, your souls are flowers and your minds are butterflies. Treat them as such.

So ask yourself…

How many souls have I snatched? How many souls are living inside of you? Are we connected or are we attached?

“I always say, never sleep with someone you wouldn’t want to be.”

– Lisa Chase Patterson

Who Is The King of R&B Music?

‘I don’t know what y’all be thinking when y’all bring ’em round me. Let me remind you that I am the King of R&B.

– R. Kelly feat. T.I. & T-Pain (I’m A Flirt Remix)

On Sunday, November 9, 2019 the singer Jacquees boldly announced on his Instagram that he’s the King of R&B.

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Like a typical Aries man he’s competitive, aggressive and smooth but Que I think you went a little bit too far, my boy.

Don’t get me wrong as a fan of Jacquees I’ve been there for everything the ‘Persian Rugs‘ and ‘Me, U & Hennessy‘ type of nights, the Mood mixtape, the collaboration album ‘F*** a Friendzone‘ that you had with Dej Loaf and the remix of Ella Mai’s Trip.

There’s no doubt that Jacquees is the R&B version of Lil Wayne because he remixes every song like Wayne did and y’all have to give credit when it’s due. Jacquees be going crazy! But R&B King? Naw I’m going to have to disagree. I still love you Que.

R&B is short for rhythm and blues. These elements are now mixed with pop, soul, funk, hip-hop, and electronic music.

Reddit says that three big things that define R&B are rhythm, vocals, and atmosphere. Vocals are usually emphasized in R&B with a lot of the genre’s vocalists often trying to sound sensual, smoother, or slicker.

Artists like Usher, Mary J. Blige, Janet Jackson, Chris Brown, Whitney Houston, Erykah Badu, Jill Scott, Monica, Brandy, Patti LaBelle, Chaka Kahn, Sade, Anita Baker, Fantasia, India Arie, Nina Simone, Gladys Knight, TLC, Xscape, The Isley Brothers, Jagged Edge, Keith Sweat, Shai, Donell Jones, Dru Hill, Jodeci, Lyfe Jennings, Boys II Men, SWV, Alicia Keys, Aaliyah, Maxwell, Avant, Ginuwine, R.Kelly, Tank, Marvin Gaye, Luther Vandross, Stevie Wonder, Smokey Robinson, John Legend, D’Angelo, and Miguel are R&B veterans.

R&B songs gives us real life situations of love, heartbreak, drama, intimacy, and makes us create great memories to them. That’s why 90s’ R&B is cherished the way that it is because it’s more than just sex. It speaks to the reality that we’re all facing or may face in our lives.

The-Dream tells NPR that R&B is the closest point to the reality of love that there is. You need it because that’s real life. So when you take out a song, suddenly we’re dancing to a song that doesn’t mean anything.

That’s much of what we do today, dance to songs that don’t have much meaning. This is the number one reason why old hits and legends in the game will always be respected no matter how old they are. Their music will live forever.

There’s no doubt that Jacquees is talented but he still has more growing and more songs to produce for his fans along with people around the world to hold the title of being the King of R&B.

P.Diddy does a great job of expressing this in his Twitter video:

Now to settle this debate I believe that the real King of R&B is the one and only R.KELLY.

Yeah I said it, it’s R.Kelly.

Yes I do recognize that R.Kelly is a pervert, that man has been sick in the head since the early 90s’. Remember him and Aaliyah? But that’s another subject.

R.Kelly as an artist is phenomenal. A singer, songwriter and record producer he has been giving us hits since the 1993. He gave us sex hits such as Bump n’ Grind, It Seems Like You’re Ready, The Zoo, Sex Planet, Sex Me, In The Kitchen, Slow Wind, and Half On a Baby.

He gave us family reunion songs like the Ignition (Remix), Step In the Name of Love, and Happy People.

He gave us songs from a woman’s point of view like and When a Woman Loves, Be Careful and When a Woman’s Fed Up.

He gave us inspirational songs like I Believe I Can Fly, I Wish, Worlds Greatest featured in Kirk Franklin’s ‘Lean On Me’ and U Saved Me.

He gave us songs of deception like Same Girl, featured in Kelly Price’s Friend of Mine, featured in The Isley Brothers ‘Contagious’, Down Low and the successful Hip-Hopera Trapped In the Closet Part 1-33.

He gave us party hits like Snake and I’m a Flirt (Remix) and lets not forget his unique songs Hair Braider and Real Talk.

R.Kelly is well rounded in the field of R&B and his artistry proves that he is overall the King Of R&B.

So readers tell me, do you agree that R.Kelly holds the crown of being the King of R&B or do you think that it’s someone else? Comment your thoughts.

15 Best Sex Songs of the 2000’s

Did you know that music actually gives us pleasure? I know right it’s crazy but it’s true. Depending on the lyrics, we can actually feel or relate to situations described in a song. Researchers from Neuroscience conducted a study showing that dopamine, a chemical released from the nerve cells to the brain helps us feel the same happiness we get from eating or having sex.

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Image by: Jayde Ferguson

Music holds the keys to our bodies pharmacy and can encourage or restrain the release of chemicals. Elite Daily says that 18 percent of couples say that music makes sex better. To them listening to music during sex makes it easy for their bodies to coordinate and go with the rhythm. Almost in the same way we Netflix and chill to get things started. If you’ve never experienced the pleasure of sex and music here’s a list of songs for you to have a night you’ll never forget. Go crazy!

1. Tank – When We

Tank starts off saying that he likes when the woman loses herself in their moment of passion as he’s giving her deep and passionate strokes. In the chorus, he makes it clear that he’s not here to make love.

‘Who came to make sweet love? Not me
Who came to kiss and hug? Not me
Who came to beat it up? Rocky
And don’t use those hands to put up that gate and stop me’

He’s here to get wild and nasty. It sounds like a sweet R&B love song but it’s far from that as Tank describes how savage he can get with her. He just wants her permission

2. Beyonce – Rocket

Ladies, this is the type of song you have to give your man a lap dance to when he’s been real good. You have to put on red lingerie and go all out! When Beyoncé says

‘Let me sit this ass on you
Show you how I feel
Let me take this off
Will you watch me
Yes mass appeal
Don’t take your eyes
Don’t take your eyes off it
Watch it, babe’

You have to go off hunny! This is a song that you tease him to before y’all get started. I promise he’s going to love it! If you’re shy with showing your sexiness take two shots of Tequila or DUSSE and you’ll be set.

3. Usher – Can U Handle It

This is a song where a couple is taking things to the next level and the man is so in love with her, but he’s letting her know that once they get in between the sheets he’s going to really express himself. He wants to make sure she’s ready for all of it. Ladies, if a man plays this for you before y’all start, just know y’all about to be up all night. When you hear Usher say

‘I’ll go deep as I can
Giving you the rest of my love’

and

‘We gon’ lay it out
We gon’ tear it up
Baby can you handle’

Call off cause you’re not going to work tomorrow sis.

4. Lil Corey – Say Yes

Lil Corey goes right into what he can do and how he can do it… all the woman has to do is say yes. Once she says yes, he’s going to leave her feining, wanting more and more.

‘I know all of the places to kiss and turn her on (turn her on)
Make her scream and moan (make her moan)
I’ll do what she want’

That’s a dangerous individual right there! To know ALL the spots to get somebody going and they’re just ready to cater to you. Yeah you’re going to need to hold on to the bed rails.

5. K-Young – Lay You Down

This is a personal fav! I love this song so much! It’s a song that’s all about comfortability like you don’t have to be shy, I won’t bite type of thing. You want it and I do too, but since I see you’re nervous I’m going to just lay you down. K-Young is describing how it’s no pressure and they don’t have to rush to get to it. He’s going to hold her down.

‘Wanna feel your beat, your heart in my hands, yes I do
Oh its true, that me and you
I’m man I can’t stand not havin’ you when I know what you’ve got
And I choose you, so baby come through let me lay you down’

6. Pretty Ricky – Up and Down

In this song you have to do it all type of ways. Up and down, round and round, reverse, just everything it’s going to be a workout. Pretty Ricky expresses how they’re not just going to have sex but this is on a making love level like Pleasure P says “that good love, that butter love”. Both of y’all are going to have heavy climaxes.

‘Up and down we go
Like the sunlight and the moon light
Can I get you right
In and out I go
Like makin’ love
That good love, that butter love
Up and down we go
Like a see-saw
I love it when you ride it babe
In and out I go
I’ma stroke it slow
Don’t tell me no’

7. Jacquees feat. Kirko Bangz – T-Shirt

This is a remix from Adina’s “T-Shirt & Panties”. In Jacquees version, the woman is sneaking and geeking with him. Even though it’s wrong, it feels right. Jacquees and Kirko Bangz are telling the story of how they’re not worried about her man because at the end of the day the woman knows what’s up. He’s going to play his role because he’s not trying to wife her, they’re just doing what they want.

‘I want you to bring it over tonight
If I pull up will you meet me outside?
Screamin’ so loud you can feel me inside
Breaking your back while you tell me a lie
Jacquees gon’ slide deep in them panties tonight
Take your shirt off, I’ma feel them tonight
Tell your n**** you not comin’ home tonight’

When this song comes on just know this is not about to be a gentle love making session, y’all getting busy!

8. Jacquees feat. Dej Loaf – No Better Love

This song is where Jacquees and Dej Loaf are explaining to each other how they are nothing like their ex’s. They’re going to show each other what they were missing out on and they are better than everyone they ever had. Jacquees says

‘When I’m inside you’re traumatized you girl I’m danger
When I’m inside you’re paralyzed yeah I’m dangerous
Oh, there’s no better love (love)
Let me break you off, you off
Say I’m all that you want, baby’

Dej comes back with

‘Been a long time
Show me what I’m missing
Oh I know you got b****es
Get rid of yours
Get rid of my all n****s
And no, they don’t gotta know
How we lace it, how we kick it
Rub my back and kiss it
Smack my a** and grip it’

They know what each other want and there’s no games. Nobodies in there business, it’s just them two. When you play this song, it’s going to be a war because y’all are trying to out do each other in bed to show why they’re the best.

9. Rihanna – Yeah I Said It

Ladies, this is where we take control! This is another fav of mine. In this song Rihanna is telling him how she’s down for any and everything, she has no regrets and she means everything that she’s saying. It’s like “yeah I said it, so what are you going to do? Don’t get scared now” type of thing.

‘You could be rough, boy, but if you won’t
Give me some love, boy, give it to me till the morn’

Fella’s when she plays this song she’s trying to see if you’re all talk or all about action. It’s a challenge, so go hard or go home!

10. The Weeknd – What You Need

This is a song where he’s showing her the difference between her man and him. He does it so good that it becomes addictive. The Weeknd says

‘I got, everything what you want with me
I do, everything he does times three
And he don’t gotta know, I got you on the floor
Doing things you never thought you’d do
Baby leave them high heel shoes
‘Cause I love it when you’re lookin’ down at me
I’m lookin’ up at you
And I don’t give a damn shorty, watch me knock them boots off and Ima love you girl
The way you need
Ain’t no one goin’ stop us’

This the type of sex that’s going to separate the boys from the men and the girls from the women.

11. Jeremih feat. Juicy J & Twista – Woosah

This song is about reassurance. Y’all are chilling and smoking or drinking a little bit and he’s letting you know it’s just y’all two nobody else. He’s not trying to do nothing with anyone else because you got that good, good. Jeremih says

‘I ain’t worried about no other b**** you got me
Use them lips you know I love you, kiss my body
Way you throw when you on all four my goddie
Can you do it on the d*** I didn’t know remind me
Slip and slide you know that’s how you get around me
Speed it up I see you want to test my ‘Rarri
True you know we spending through this flip you got me
Cause all I know is f***ing you the s***’

The smoke has y’all in the zone and y’all expressing yourselves in the sheets exploring each other’s vibe.

12. Trey Songz – Inside Pt. 2

Trey Songz is describing how good her sex is while he’s inside. The feeling is almost indescribable but he knows that it’s so good that he wants to go deeper and deeper. Trey Songz says

‘Sweat dripping off your body onto mine
Ain’t nothing better than when I’m inside
She got her legs on my shoulders
Looking in my eyes
Not the bed or the sofa
Getting it in outside
Knew that you were scared
You ain’t even want to try
But girl it’s no surprise
Feels so good I’m bout to cry
While I’m inside’

Ladies if he plays this just know you got that A1 type of love.

13. Marques Houston – Noize

You know when they’re making sounds you going crazy. The moan and the shivers are going to let you know that they aren’t faking. Marques Houston explains how he’s going to take all of her energy with his powerful love making. He’s using his context clues to let him know that she likes it. Her sounds, her body movements, the way she holds on to the bed, how wet she gets, and etc. What makes him keep going is the noise that she makes and how loud she is. This turns him on. Marques says

‘Tell the mattress to be quiet I cant hear you
I love it when you make that noise
Screamin’ to you lose your voice
This is good you ain’t got no choice
Baby wanna make you moist
That’s when you make that noise’

This type of sex will be well worth it because he’s going by how your body reacts to things and how loud you are.

14. Chris Brown – Take You Down

It’s just y’all two in the room and both of y’all know what’s about to happen next. Chris explains how this isn’t going to be rushed, just take your clothes off and relax. Don’t be shy if you don’t know what to do because y’all are about to be up all night. Chris says

‘Pretty girl let’s take it off,
In this room
No time to waist
Girl you know what we came to dooooo (woahawoahawoah)
We got all night to try to get it right girl
(Hope ya ready, hope ya ready, hope ya ready)
I hope ya ready babe,
Cuz here we go,
We know how we do’

Ladies if he plays this you’re for sure getting took down. He’s about to snatch your heart and soul so get ready!

15. Lloyd – Feels So Right

This has a sensual sound to it, making the mood more relaxed and less tense. Lloyd is expressing how he admires the woman from top to bottom, he wants it. He wants to make her feel good and he’s assuring her that everything’s going to feel real nice. Lloyd says

‘So shorty just relax your mind
Sit back and let’s unwind
I promise it’ll feel real good
Just let me massage your spine

Cause baby there’s no need to rush
you ain’t got no where to go take your time
And you see by the end of our escapade I’ll make you mine’

Yeah you’re going to get real comfortable while this song is playing.