Took you from the hood & I could never give you back, I just wanna let you know that someone love you back
Drake (Child’s Play)
When dealing with a man from the streets you gotta understand this ain’t no fairytale, this real life. If you have some type of hood n**** fetish thinking you’re going to get what they portray on T.V. or social media, you just need to walk away because you’re playing a dangerous game. That’s one thing they don ‘t do is play games, go ahead and make that exit for me sis.
Every man has been through trial and trauma, but this ain’t just a regular dude.
You have to be mentally and emotionally strong for this type of man cause you gon’ go through some s***. Your level of understanding and patience has to be at an all time high. He’s gonna let you know through the door what he comes with, how he likes things to be done, his triggers, what he’s trying to work on and how he wants/needs you to move.
He’s going to tell you all those things and give you the option of staying or leaving because he doesn’t need to second guess anything. He’s going to test you to see how you handle situations, how you think, but most of all to see if he can really trust you because he trusts no one.
Is you with me or what…
His charm, approach and personality is what’s going to get you first. They’re going to woo you in a different type of way because they pay attention.
When you think they’re not listening, they hear you… when you think they don’t notice when you’re having a bad day, they already thinking of ways to resolve the problem.
When you looking good, they wanna show you off but at the same time keep you to themselves; you’re their jewel. Beyond getting gifts and getting wined and dined they’re going to make sure you’re respected and well protected.
They move fast when they really like you.
I Love Hood N****s says when you with a hood boy, you never have to wonder how they feel about you. It’s my belief that hugging the block makes you appreciate time, therefore they don’t waste it being “just friends”.
In most cases, that is very true. Once you’ve shown them that you’re a good, loyal woman they start to open up more. Bringing you around family and friends instantly, being openly affectionate, more open-minded to the things you want to do and giving you their support 100%.
He actually has a heart, it just doesn’t beat for everybody.
The more time that’s spent you start to realize that he’s not who everyone demonizes him to be. He’s not just a man who totes guns and drugs. This is a man who has taken countless losses. His nights are sleepless and his brain never stops, he’s always on GO. He’s damaged from deaths, shootouts, scrambling for money, having no food at times and knowing that he still has to hold it together. Nothing excites him because he’s paranoid of being too excited and something going wrong, so he’s laidback.
He doesn’t want to put his trauma on you so at times he’s quiet and doesn’t want to talk. A lot of things you shouldn’t take personal. He just wants you to be his peace since the world has been so chaotic and he’ll be the same for you.
The relationship will be far from perfect. You gonna have them days where y’all arguing about other women/other men, jealousy, trust issues, miscommunication and misunderstandings, controlling and possessiveness. It’s even going to be times when y’all not speaking to each other because no one wants to say the wrong thing and y’all just tired of arguing.
Through those times both of you need to really focus on what matters and what doesn’t. Also, there needs to be an understanding so neither one of you drain each other out. If some type of space is needed take it, but don’t take too much of it. It’s what’s needed to clear the smoke, then come back together. That’s how it goes.
As a woman, you are molding him to know that there is more to life than the streets. He’s not looking toward or thinking of the future, he’s just living day by day. He’s molding you as well by teaching you the game rather than running it on you, bringing out more of the woman in you and putting you on point to what you need to know in life.
Every moment, every second he’s molding you, testing you, giving you the balance of soft love and tough love because he knows that one day he’s not going to be around anymore rather its dead or in jail.
Some people do get those chances to where they beat jail, but you can’t beat death cause we all gotta die some day. That’s why he keeps you close and God close. He lives in moments rather than the future because he knows that once he’s gone, you’ll still have those memories and that bond. He wants you to be left strong, prepared and unbreakable. He is you and you are him.