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Snatching Souls

On By Ashley RedIn dating, Love, Lust, music2 Comments

‘Cause I love it when you’re looking down at me, I’m looking up at you.. And I don’t give a damn shawty, watch me knock your boots off’

– The Weeknd (What You Need)

A blessing and a curse.

The art of soul snatching is real! People often think that it’s just a individual dominating someone else’s body while their in ecstasy but it’s more. Orgasms and climaxes are natural but that does NOT mean you’ve ‘snatched someone’s soul’.

Soul snatching is being able to control your opposition not only physically but with your mind. A soul snatcher will entice your mind , leaving you fully open to experiencing new things outside your comfort zone.

Love Sex And Passion says They’ll please you and control you at the same time.

Not only is soul snatching real but so are soul ties. Each time a man connects with a woman sexually releasing his liquids and energy within her, he leaves a part of his DNA. If she doesn’t clean herself then it remains inside of her, leaving an impression which causes a person to become sexual addicted to that individual.

Sex is more than just a physical act, it’s spiritual as well. The more we are with a person especially in a sexual way, we start to develop their habits without even knowing it.

Jet Magazine says you ultimately become who you exchange with in the physical sense, so be mindful about who you choose.

Even when using a condom, spiritually transmitted demons can interrupt your spirit.

Have you ever noticed that some men and women can’t get over that one particular person that has caused them emotional trauma? No matter if it’s been months or years, the very sound of their name or even seeing their face just fills them up with disgust! It’s because something within them that wasn’t right tormented your inner being. Then eventually the only thing that was holding the relationship or bond together was the sex.

Sometimes that soul tie even causes us to attract that very person that we despise. It could be a different person, yet the same behavior. It all becomes familiar.

Pay attention to the way you are around this person. Are you calm and comfortable or are you sad for no reason or feeling empty?

I was always taught about soul ties and energies as a child but I never understood what it truly meant, especially when it came to sex. It wasn’t until I entered my twenties and had my own experiences is when I found out that it wasn’t a theory.

A couple of years ago, I was bonded to someone that I thought that I could potentially be with but it seemed like we were always clashing. There were times where I knew that the affects he had on me were destructive but I couldn’t shake him. It was a love/hate thing mixed with lust.

The more we linked up it seemed that we would literally exchange feelings. In the beginning I was always the happy one and he was always the sad one that felt like the world was on his shoulders.. then that all shifted into me becoming the depressed one and him becoming the ‘happy for no reason’ partner.

Once I finally came to my senses and ended it, I compared my experience with him to others. All the good and the bad was put into evaluation and I can truly say that we were tied together for all the wrong reasons. Even though I was hurt and didn’t want to believe it, I felt a sense of relief.

Women fall in love based on emotions even when they know the facts. Men fall in love based on facts, even if they have a strong connection or feeling for you they won’t let that overpower their decision on if they see a long term future with you.

MyBlackMatters says that many times we fall in love without realizing what it is we’re falling into. When a woman is led by her emotions this makes it easy for her to be taken advantage of. She may be sexually compatible with a man who has no idea how to care for her heart.

The same thing goes for men. This is why we have to be cautious of who we are exchanging liquids, energy, and spirits with. You don’t know what good or bad affects that person may have on you.

If you’re going to get your ‘soul snatched’ make sure you know who’s doing the snatching, you may be sleeping with the devil and you don’t even know it! Men and women your bodies are temples, your souls are flowers and your minds are butterflies. Treat them as such.

So ask yourself…

How many souls have I snatched? How many souls are living inside of you? Are we connected or are we attached?

“I always say, never sleep with someone you wouldn’t want to be.”

– Lisa Chase Patterson

Does Body Counts Matter To You?

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‘I can tell that you been practicing.. All those other men were practice, they were practice

Yeah, for me, for me, for me’

– Drake (Practice)

Photographed by Lula Hyers

The past is never really in the past. When we get to know someone we want to know all about them.. their background, best memories, favorite food, childhood traumas, tastes in music, and past relationships. Then that dreadful question is asked….

‘What’s your body count?’

Usually when a man asks this question, he’s trying to see how innocent or freaky you are. When a woman asks this question she’s trying to see how experienced you are or if you even have some self control.

This makes things complicated and a little awkward because if you tell the truth, you’ll be judged on if you have some type of discipline or if you’re just being a thot.

(Thot is a slang term which originated from a Chicago rapper named Chief Keef meaning hoe or slut.)

Then if you lie about your past sexual partners you’ll get judged anyway if the truth is ever found out because no one likes a liar. Regardless the truth is hard to take in but its necessary.

Men are often pressured to lie about their sexual encounters to make them seem like they’re well experienced and if they don’t have this huge number connected to them, it makes them seem like they don’t get any action. Women are pressured to knock off a couple of numbers of their past lovers to make them seem like they’re ‘good girls’.

It’s crazy how these cultural stereotypes have our minds wrapped up in them like this.

Mel Magazine says men are supposed to go out there and get all they can while they can; women are supposed to seem discerning about who they let get up in there. Women are supposed to guard their virginity for love; men are supposed to get it over with as soon as possible or risk eternal humiliation. It follows then, that women would feel pressured to still seem pure, while men would feel pressured to seem experienced.

We’re all human and sexual beings by nature. Having sex is normal, no matter who we choose to lay down with or how many times we lay down with one person or multiple people.

Men can be openly sexual about their partners but why can’t a women acknowledge her sexual awakening and be as free as a man? Why is there so much double standards on something that were all doing?

Odyssey says that the number of people you personally include in your body count doesn’t define you in any way, but we still place this extreme amount of importance on it.

This is true. I’ve been around a lot of men who prefer women to have a certain amount of sexual parters because they claim that it shows that she’s pure, tight, and isn’t passing herself around.. but what about you?

The body is a temple regardless if you’re a man or a woman so shouldn’t that apply to men as well? Just because you have more sex partners than others doesn’t mean that you don’t respect yourself. Women love sex just as much as men, sometimes more the men. Yet men and women still set these unrealistic expectations on things that don’t even matter.

Dollar Shave Club reported that between zero and 10 is the range that people generally prefer to be involved with, especially when it comes to long term relationships.

Then there’s a myth that has been installed in everyone’s head believing that when a woman reaches a certain number of sex partners that she no longer has vaginal walls or tightness which is a flat out lie.

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Psychology Today says that the vagina’s tightly folded muscle tissue is very elastic, like an accordion or the mouth. When it’s at rest–all the time except sexual arousal and childbirth–the vagina’s muscle tissue remains tightly folded like a closed accordion. As women become sexually aroused, vaginal muscle tissue relaxes somewhat.

A tight vagina would prevent intercourse and reproduction from happening, so women evolved to have sexual arousal relax the vaginal muscles, allowing easier insertion of erections–and greater chance of pregnancy.

The arousal of a woman or how ever many sex partners she’s had doesn’t produce or stretch out her vaginal walls and it definitely doesn’t create a big opening since the vagina is elastic.

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On average women  require at least 30 minutes of sensuality—kissing, hugging, and mutual massage for their vaginas to relax enough to allow the penis to slide in comfortably. It gives women (and men) the warm-up time they need.

After relaxing during sex, vaginal muscle tissue naturally contracts—tightens—again. Intercourse does NOT permanently stretch the vagina. This process, loosening during arousal and tightening afterward, happens no matter how often the woman has sex, says Psychology Today.

Those myths can be put to rest now because these are the facts!

Honestly, a ‘body count’ is irrelevant because we were meant to be sexual beings. You shouldn’t label someone based on their past encounters because a persons past has nothing to do with you. You shouldn’t be intimated by anyone who’s had sex with someone you’re being involved with now. It’s a big world but we all are related to someone and have mutual friends with people. You are the present! Focus on that and stop being worried about childish things.

Personally, I don’t prefer to have sex with many people because everyone isn’t deserving of me in that way and I’m a clingy and territorial person. YOU ARE MINE! Period!

So with the attitude I have, casual sex wouldn’t work for me.  However, I don’t look at myself as higher than others who believe different or move different because I understand their point of views. I’m still going to show you that same respect, regardless of what you choose to do with your body. To be real, its not that deep as long as you’re using protection and not laying down with people for the wrong reasons (low self-esteem or trying to fill a void).

Women don’t be ashamed of yourself for what you did years ago, months ago or days ago. Do whatever makes you happy and don’t let anyone make you feel that you’re less than. You don’t need the approval of others. Men don’t feel that you need to lie to impress anyone or give off this persona that you’re a player, even if you were. Things happen and people change. As long as you’re living in you’re truth now.. that’s all that matters.

Sex and Fitness

On By Ashley RedIn Health, sexLeave a comment

‘Is it worth it? Let me work it. I put my thing down, flip it and reverse it.. If you got a big, let me search ya and find out how hard I gotta work ya’

Missy Elliot (Work It)

Image from Bobby Gouse IG

Bobby Gouse, an instructor at Studio Three Chicago and AIR-Ariel Fitness has been teaching fitness for over 6 years. Originally from New York City, he began as an actor than switched to coaching children for Broadway shows. Then he started dancing for a dance cardio company called 305 Fitness. Soon after, he became interested in becoming a personal trainer and began taking classes to get certified. Gouse then came to Chicago to pursue his dreams in fitness. When I interviewed Gouse, he gave insight on how sex and fitness work hand in hand.

1. How do you think fitness benefits people’s sex life overall?

It’s huge, it’s not just ‘I want to have a eight pack or big boobs or butt’, it’s not just about looking good. You looking good for your partner and also looking good for yourself is important. Once you better yourself and look in the mirror saying ‘I’m really comfortable with how I look’, its really going to pay off in the bedroom and most of all mentally. Eating healthy, working out, and portion control. Once you feel super secure about yourself and you bring that into a bedroom it’s fireworks!

2. Do you recommend that people have a workout routine not only for their physical health, but also for them to not get tired quickly in the bedroom? Why or why not?

Definitely, because then you can lift your guy or girl. Also with Yoga you can become more flexible to get into different positions. Doing barre classes or an air class that has a lot of upper body strength and with those things you can totally bring that into the bedroom. A lot of core work also because core is your main thing that’s holding you up along with squats.

3. Do you think that exercise increases your sex drive and why?

Yes!, absolutely it’s scientifically proven.

4. Which part of the body does cycle help improve and how would that affect a persons sex life?

Cycling helps your legs, core, and butt. You’re mainly working your core, a lot of people think it’s all legs and it’s really not. Once you keep your hips still and you engage your core and sit that butt back, your whole body is engaged and it’s working everything. A lot of people are shocked with how many muscles you’re actually working when you cycle especially when you’re on the saddle. Those tap backs you can totally bring them into the bedroom and if you come to my class, I do plenty of tap backs and a lot of choreography that you can bring into the bedroom that make you feel sexy.

5. What other exercise besides kegel exercises would you recommend?

I would say doing squats with weights, yoga (yoga is super important) , planks, runner lunges — One leg in front, the other is back. Anything that you work your butt, legs, and inner thighs is huge and beneficial.

Health says that in men, regular exercise appears to be a natural Viagra. It’s associated with a lower risk of erectile problems. Research in women has found that those who are physically active report greater sexual desire, arousal, and satisfaction than women who are sedentary.  In an experiment was conducted with young women that required them to do intense cycling for 20 minutes prior to watching X-rated films. The exercise increases vaginal blood volume responses to the film and exercise.

That alone proves that a physically fit person is more likely to enjoy sex more than a non-for person. They have ten times the energy and are less likely to get worn out quickly.

HowStuffWorks says that the improved muscle tone can increase sexual gratification since orgasms depend on multiple muscle activity.

Yes ladies we’re aiming for orgasms not just to cum, there’s definitely a difference between the two.

Other benefits of working out is that it raises your heart rate, helps you find your balance, strengthens your pelvic floor muscles and connects you with your body.

Don’t just workout to have a better sex life, but workout to have a better health life in general. Remember to treat yourself well and eat right. Your body, mind, and soul depend on you to exercise so you’ll feel even younger in your older years to come.

I’m going to be honest, it’s way better to workout with friends so schedule a day when you and the girls or guys are just chilling with nothing to do and get a membership at your local gym. Get all the benefits of a better sex life, a healthier heart, and a in depth connection with your inner self.

How To Become More Comfortable

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‘Baby kick your shoes off and relax. We ain’t in a rush so just kick back, all I need is your attention for what I’m needing’

– K-Young (Lay You Down)

Image from Usher’s U Got It Bad Video 

Getting to the level of comfortability with someone is not easy. Being naked in front of them for the first time can make you feel vulnerable and self conscious because there’s no where to hide. They’re literally seeing all of you.

Things can get awkward pretty fast or you might just be nervous to take things to the next step… and that’s okay. We’ve all been there, whether you’re just hooking up with someone new or it’s your first time having sex with your partner.

Busle says you have to be brave enough to address the issue, rather than just pretend everything’s fine and you’re really a nervous wreck.

It’s okay to feel shy, but the most important thing is that you have fun because sex shouldn’t be taken serious. You need to have someone that you can laugh with even when things don’t go right because sex isn’t perfect.

HowStuffWorks says that a common insecurity is about “performance”. Women worry that they’ll take too long to orgasm or that they won’t be able to. Men are concerned that they’ll ejaculate too quickly or not get hard enough.

Here’s some tips on how to make yourself more acquainted with your partner in the bedroom. This is from my personal experience so if it worked for me, I’m sure it’ll be no different for you.

Step 1:

Communicate with your partner and let them know your concerns and fears. By doing this, they should reassure you that even if it isn’t great the first time, they’ll be patient with you and lead you along the way. Talk about your sexual fantasies, what you want, and how you want it done.

Step 2

Walk around the house naked sometimes. We all have certain insecurities about our bodies, but that’s also why we should embrace them. Nobody’s perfect! Turn on some music and start dancing! Music makes everything better so let go and be free. Look yourself in the mirror and just own it, no matter what shape your in.

Step 3:

MASTER BATE! Yes I said it! Go to the sex store and get some sex toys and lube. It’s important that you learn your own body first. By you exploring your pleasure spots, it’ll be easier to guide your partner to the things that make you orgasm. You’re definitely going to be vocal on what you like and dislike. At first you’ll feel a little weird, but once you get that spot babyyyyy you’re going to meet God himself!

Step 4

Watch porn & practice. If you want to be good at something you have to see it first then try it yourself. The more you practice the better you’ll get. Give yourself time and don’t be too hard on yourself. Relax, don’t be so timid and don’t think too much. Just let things flow. If you’re a virgin, don’t expect your first time to be like a porno. Remember this is your first time ever doing something like this so you have to be realistic with yourself. The more you watch and do, the better you’ll get and that’ll also inspire you to try new things.

Step 5

HAVE FUN! Sex should not be taken serious. Laugh and smile during silly or awkward moments causes 9/10 your partner feels the same way. This will bring y’all closer. Be experimental, you don’t have to keep doing the same positions. If it isn’t fun for you than you shouldn’t be doing it. They’re here to get theirs so make sure you’re having a good time and getting yours too!

I want all my shy caterpillars to break free from their cocoon and be a butterfly. I challenge all my readers that are still in their shells, boy or girl to do these steps and share your stories with me. I’m confident that with the steps I’ve given you, y’all are going to be well acquainted.

Life is too short, we all deserve to have the best sex of our lives! Get out there and make me proud.

Lust vs. Love: The Differences of The Two L’s

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‘If it look this good… I wonder how it taste?’

– Jeremih (Waiter/ The 5 Senses)

Image by: Angela D. Coleman

Lust is such a powerful thing. We can lust for money, food, material things and people. In human nature we are naturally attracted to things that give us curiosity and desire even if we know it isn’t good for us, the feeling is hard to break free from. Isn’t it crazy how we want the things that we can’t have? Put sex in the mix and that makes things even more complicated and confusing, like wow what a situation!

In Tyler Perry’s Temptation: Confessions Of A Marriage Counselor,  Judith (Journey Smollett-Bell and Brice (Lance Gross) have been together since high school, now they’re married and the fire between them has seemed to burn out. Judith just completed her graduate work in psychotherapy and she’s on the journey of starting her career as a marriage counselor. She decides to take an internship at a matchmaking firm. There she meets Harley (Robbie Jones) a charming and confident client who makes it clear to Judith that he’s feeling her. The sexual chemistry between the two is at an all time high as Judith and Harley start to spend more time together. Soon, Judith gives into her desires and finds herself in a web of chaos, placing her marriage in shambles.

Temptation captures the definition of lust perfectly! We often confuse lust and love because we are infatuated with the idea of this person rather than being in love with them. This fueled idealization leads us to believe that this person is for us and we’re blinded by what we hope they will become or what we need them to be, instead of seeing them for who they are. Adding sex along with that makes it even more complex and toxic because you’re addicted to how they make you feel physically and you neglect the emotional and mental aspect. Psychology Today says that studies show that your brain is in a phase similar to when your brain is on drugs. MRI scans illustrate that the same area  lights up when an addict gets a fix of cocaine as when a person is experiencing the intense lust of physical attraction. Attachments happen when your in the phase of lust, not connections.

Signs of Lust

  • You’re more attracted to their physical appearance. Every time you see them, there  needs to be sexual activity happening.
  • Most of your thoughts about this person is of a sexual nature.
  • You only connect with them on a physical level, not as on a emotional or intellectual level.
  • You want them to leave right after sex rather than cuddling or having breakfast with them the next morning.
  • You don’t see anything long-term with them, it’s just for the moment.

Love on the other hand is beautiful. It’s pure, unconditional, and patient. Love overpowers lust because it’s stronger than the sex drive, it’s something that’s stable. You can’t see yourself without the person and you’re truly invested in them. It’s way beyond sex because you accept them for who they are, even when times are hard you still want them around.

‘See I’ll love you when your hair turns gray, girl and I’ll still want you if you gain a little weight, yeah. The way I feel for you will always be the same, just as long as your love don’t change’

– Musiq Soulchild (Don’t Change)

In the movie Jason’s Lyric, two inner city youth Jason (Allen Payne) and Lyric (Jada Pinkett-Smith) find love in the rough streets of Houston. They both are dealing with personal problems. Jason having guilt with his brother’s violent behavior from a traumatic experience that they both encountered and Lyric who’s hestiant to the feeling of love, scared that it will be smothered by the violence around her. Together, they learn to let go of their doubts and fears, and leave their past behind for a better life.

The love that is shared between Jason and Lyric in this movie is the most accurate definition of unconditional love. It’s not easy, but it’s worth it. When you can truly be at peace with a person and you want to know things about them and their childhood, that’s how you know it’s real. The chemistry is there! Yes, you”ll be physically attracted to them but sex won’t even cross your mind because you admire them rather than being infatuated with them. You both motivate each other to be all that they can be and you’re protective over them. You’re willing to make sacrifices for them and you take an interest into what they like. There’s more than an intimate relationship, there’s a friendship as well. Independent says that love is an equal partnership, but you’ll find someone’s happiness become really important to you when you’re falling for them.

Compassionate love can be one of the biggest signs of a healthy relationship, according to research. This involves long-term commitment, deep intimacy and one of the main things that will make or break a relationship… TRUST.

Signs of Love

  • You motivate each other to become better and you work as a team.
  • You can’t stop thinking about them.
  • You want to spend quality time with them beyond sex.
  • You both get lost in conversation that you don’t notice the time and hours pass.
  • You’re focused on each other, your phones don’t matter.
  • You listen to one another and genuinely want to make each other happy, going above and beyond!
  • You want to get closer, meeting family and friends.
  • You become possessive over each other.
  • You only want that person and no one else.
  • They bring you peace.

Now that you understand the differences between lust and love, ask yourself…

Could I spend a whole day with this person without sex? Do I want to get to know their family? Am I ready to wake up to them everyday or just every now and then? Do I really want to go out my way to help them? How do we benefit from each other? Can I work through their past traumas that they’ve had? Can I chill with them, even without other people or my phone? Do I really like them or do I like the way they make me feel? Is there a future with them? Is there even a real connection here? Am I actually ready for commitment?

15 Best Sex Songs of the 2000’s

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Did you know that music actually gives us pleasure? I know right it’s crazy but it’s true. Depending on the lyrics, we can actually feel or relate to situations described in a song. Researchers from Neuroscience conducted a study showing that dopamine, a chemical released from the nerve cells to the brain helps us feel the same happiness we get from eating or having sex.

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Image by: Jayde Ferguson

Music holds the keys to our bodies pharmacy and can encourage or restrain the release of chemicals. Elite Daily says that 18 percent of couples say that music makes sex better. To them listening to music during sex makes it easy for their bodies to coordinate and go with the rhythm. Almost in the same way we Netflix and chill to get things started. If you’ve never experienced the pleasure of sex and music here’s a list of songs for you to have a night you’ll never forget. Go crazy!

1. Tank – When We

Tank starts off saying that he likes when the woman loses herself in their moment of passion as he’s giving her deep and passionate strokes. In the chorus, he makes it clear that he’s not here to make love.

‘Who came to make sweet love? Not me
Who came to kiss and hug? Not me
Who came to beat it up? Rocky
And don’t use those hands to put up that gate and stop me’

He’s here to get wild and nasty. It sounds like a sweet R&B love song but it’s far from that as Tank describes how savage he can get with her. He just wants her permission

2. Beyonce – Rocket

Ladies, this is the type of song you have to give your man a lap dance to when he’s been real good. You have to put on red lingerie and go all out! When Beyoncé says

‘Let me sit this ass on you
Show you how I feel
Let me take this off
Will you watch me
Yes mass appeal
Don’t take your eyes
Don’t take your eyes off it
Watch it, babe’

You have to go off hunny! This is a song that you tease him to before y’all get started. I promise he’s going to love it! If you’re shy with showing your sexiness take two shots of Tequila or DUSSE and you’ll be set.

3. Usher – Can U Handle It

This is a song where a couple is taking things to the next level and the man is so in love with her, but he’s letting her know that once they get in between the sheets he’s going to really express himself. He wants to make sure she’s ready for all of it. Ladies, if a man plays this for you before y’all start, just know y’all about to be up all night. When you hear Usher say

‘I’ll go deep as I can
Giving you the rest of my love’

and

‘We gon’ lay it out
We gon’ tear it up
Baby can you handle’

Call off cause you’re not going to work tomorrow sis.

4. Lil Corey – Say Yes

Lil Corey goes right into what he can do and how he can do it… all the woman has to do is say yes. Once she says yes, he’s going to leave her feining, wanting more and more.

‘I know all of the places to kiss and turn her on (turn her on)
Make her scream and moan (make her moan)
I’ll do what she want’

That’s a dangerous individual right there! To know ALL the spots to get somebody going and they’re just ready to cater to you. Yeah you’re going to need to hold on to the bed rails.

5. K-Young – Lay You Down

This is a personal fav! I love this song so much! It’s a song that’s all about comfortability like you don’t have to be shy, I won’t bite type of thing. You want it and I do too, but since I see you’re nervous I’m going to just lay you down. K-Young is describing how it’s no pressure and they don’t have to rush to get to it. He’s going to hold her down.

‘Wanna feel your beat, your heart in my hands, yes I do
Oh its true, that me and you
I’m man I can’t stand not havin’ you when I know what you’ve got
And I choose you, so baby come through let me lay you down’

6. Pretty Ricky – Up and Down

In this song you have to do it all type of ways. Up and down, round and round, reverse, just everything it’s going to be a workout. Pretty Ricky expresses how they’re not just going to have sex but this is on a making love level like Pleasure P says “that good love, that butter love”. Both of y’all are going to have heavy climaxes.

‘Up and down we go
Like the sunlight and the moon light
Can I get you right
In and out I go
Like makin’ love
That good love, that butter love
Up and down we go
Like a see-saw
I love it when you ride it babe
In and out I go
I’ma stroke it slow
Don’t tell me no’

7. Jacquees feat. Kirko Bangz – T-Shirt

This is a remix from Adina’s “T-Shirt & Panties”. In Jacquees version, the woman is sneaking and geeking with him. Even though it’s wrong, it feels right. Jacquees and Kirko Bangz are telling the story of how they’re not worried about her man because at the end of the day the woman knows what’s up. He’s going to play his role because he’s not trying to wife her, they’re just doing what they want.

‘I want you to bring it over tonight
If I pull up will you meet me outside?
Screamin’ so loud you can feel me inside
Breaking your back while you tell me a lie
Jacquees gon’ slide deep in them panties tonight
Take your shirt off, I’ma feel them tonight
Tell your n**** you not comin’ home tonight’

When this song comes on just know this is not about to be a gentle love making session, y’all getting busy!

8. Jacquees feat. Dej Loaf – No Better Love

This song is where Jacquees and Dej Loaf are explaining to each other how they are nothing like their ex’s. They’re going to show each other what they were missing out on and they are better than everyone they ever had. Jacquees says

‘When I’m inside you’re traumatized you girl I’m danger
When I’m inside you’re paralyzed yeah I’m dangerous
Oh, there’s no better love (love)
Let me break you off, you off
Say I’m all that you want, baby’

Dej comes back with

‘Been a long time
Show me what I’m missing
Oh I know you got b****es
Get rid of yours
Get rid of my all n****s
And no, they don’t gotta know
How we lace it, how we kick it
Rub my back and kiss it
Smack my a** and grip it’

They know what each other want and there’s no games. Nobodies in there business, it’s just them two. When you play this song, it’s going to be a war because y’all are trying to out do each other in bed to show why they’re the best.

9. Rihanna – Yeah I Said It

Ladies, this is where we take control! This is another fav of mine. In this song Rihanna is telling him how she’s down for any and everything, she has no regrets and she means everything that she’s saying. It’s like “yeah I said it, so what are you going to do? Don’t get scared now” type of thing.

‘You could be rough, boy, but if you won’t
Give me some love, boy, give it to me till the morn’

Fella’s when she plays this song she’s trying to see if you’re all talk or all about action. It’s a challenge, so go hard or go home!

10. The Weeknd – What You Need

This is a song where he’s showing her the difference between her man and him. He does it so good that it becomes addictive. The Weeknd says

‘I got, everything what you want with me
I do, everything he does times three
And he don’t gotta know, I got you on the floor
Doing things you never thought you’d do
Baby leave them high heel shoes
‘Cause I love it when you’re lookin’ down at me
I’m lookin’ up at you
And I don’t give a damn shorty, watch me knock them boots off and Ima love you girl
The way you need
Ain’t no one goin’ stop us’

This the type of sex that’s going to separate the boys from the men and the girls from the women.

11. Jeremih feat. Juicy J & Twista – Woosah

This song is about reassurance. Y’all are chilling and smoking or drinking a little bit and he’s letting you know it’s just y’all two nobody else. He’s not trying to do nothing with anyone else because you got that good, good. Jeremih says

‘I ain’t worried about no other b**** you got me
Use them lips you know I love you, kiss my body
Way you throw when you on all four my goddie
Can you do it on the d*** I didn’t know remind me
Slip and slide you know that’s how you get around me
Speed it up I see you want to test my ‘Rarri
True you know we spending through this flip you got me
Cause all I know is f***ing you the s***’

The smoke has y’all in the zone and y’all expressing yourselves in the sheets exploring each other’s vibe.

12. Trey Songz – Inside Pt. 2

Trey Songz is describing how good her sex is while he’s inside. The feeling is almost indescribable but he knows that it’s so good that he wants to go deeper and deeper. Trey Songz says

‘Sweat dripping off your body onto mine
Ain’t nothing better than when I’m inside
She got her legs on my shoulders
Looking in my eyes
Not the bed or the sofa
Getting it in outside
Knew that you were scared
You ain’t even want to try
But girl it’s no surprise
Feels so good I’m bout to cry
While I’m inside’

Ladies if he plays this just know you got that A1 type of love.

13. Marques Houston – Noize

You know when they’re making sounds you going crazy. The moan and the shivers are going to let you know that they aren’t faking. Marques Houston explains how he’s going to take all of her energy with his powerful love making. He’s using his context clues to let him know that she likes it. Her sounds, her body movements, the way she holds on to the bed, how wet she gets, and etc. What makes him keep going is the noise that she makes and how loud she is. This turns him on. Marques says

‘Tell the mattress to be quiet I cant hear you
I love it when you make that noise
Screamin’ to you lose your voice
This is good you ain’t got no choice
Baby wanna make you moist
That’s when you make that noise’

This type of sex will be well worth it because he’s going by how your body reacts to things and how loud you are.

14. Chris Brown – Take You Down

It’s just y’all two in the room and both of y’all know what’s about to happen next. Chris explains how this isn’t going to be rushed, just take your clothes off and relax. Don’t be shy if you don’t know what to do because y’all are about to be up all night. Chris says

‘Pretty girl let’s take it off,
In this room
No time to waist
Girl you know what we came to dooooo (woahawoahawoah)
We got all night to try to get it right girl
(Hope ya ready, hope ya ready, hope ya ready)
I hope ya ready babe,
Cuz here we go,
We know how we do’

Ladies if he plays this you’re for sure getting took down. He’s about to snatch your heart and soul so get ready!

15. Lloyd – Feels So Right

This has a sensual sound to it, making the mood more relaxed and less tense. Lloyd is expressing how he admires the woman from top to bottom, he wants it. He wants to make her feel good and he’s assuring her that everything’s going to feel real nice. Lloyd says

‘So shorty just relax your mind
Sit back and let’s unwind
I promise it’ll feel real good
Just let me massage your spine

Cause baby there’s no need to rush
you ain’t got no where to go take your time
And you see by the end of our escapade I’ll make you mine’

Yeah you’re going to get real comfortable while this song is playing.

Let me introduce myself

On By Ashley RedIn AutobiographyLeave a comment

72E3BB11-F98E-4409-900E-9B27F2C6C95EI’m a girl from the Southside of Chicago who enjoys writing, meeting new people, trying new things and having fun. I treat life as a gift because we’re all fortunate to have one. My blog will focus on sex and music mainly because thats something that everyone can relate to. This won’t be anything typical, trust me. My goal for this blog is to dig deeper into sex and music. I’ll be giving reviews and suggestions on music and analyzing musical content such as lyrics, poetry, and videos. I’m encouraging sex positivity while also including sex education. Many people have sex but they don’t know what it comes with. Those body fluids we’re sharing actually mean something. I’ll include the pros of working out to keep your body looking good and to keep you more energized for sex. The right food to eat to keep your hygiene intact. The differences between waxing and shaving, and I will be giving information on the differences between lust and love. Those two definitely tend to mix when sex is involved. Also, I will talk about ways of breaking out of your shell and making yourself comfortable. This blog is for both men and women. I’m using sexual lyrics to combine my topics and giving my opinion on artists while asking for yours as well. Feel free to give me music suggestions as well! I don’t know about y’all but I’m always looking for something new to blast in my ears. What are some songs that you like to listen to while you’re in the mood?